Saturday, December 15, 2012
Final Blog Post
Hello Class!
This will be my final post to this blog. I hope that you have learned a bit over the course of the semester. My students never cease to amaze me. I think I learn just as much from my students, if not more, than my students learn from me. In short, I have had a great time with you this semester, and wish each of you a relaxing and fun break. You've earned it.
As of midnight tonight everything should be entered into D2L. Take a look at your total points then compare that number to the following scale to see the grade you earned in Comm 10.
A+ 970-1000
A 940-969
A- 900-939
B+ 870-899
B 840-869
B- 800-839
C+ 770-799
C 740-769
C- 700-739
D+ 670-699
D 640-669
D- 600-639
F 600 and below
I will post grades at some point tomorrow, but I don't think they will be released for a day or two. The mysjsu system will release grades at its own pace.
Again, I have had a great time with you all this semester, and hope that you have a wonderful break!
Signing off for the last time.....
The Blogging Prof
Monday, December 10, 2012
Week of Dec 10 - 14
Hello Fabulous Students,
As you all know, the only thing left to complete for Comm 10 is the final exam, which is open book/open notes. As a reminder the final exam will open up on Dec 13th at 12:01am, and will close on Dec 14th at 11:59pm. Please be sure to take the final exam during the scheduled time.
Please follow these instructions and reminders to take the final exam:
1). Download the Proctor Form from the "Content" tab on D2L. You can locate it under the "Quizzes and Tests" tab.
2). Find someone to proctor your final exam who is a). NOT a part of Comm 10 at SJSU, and b). Over the age of 21. You do not need to go to a testing center for the final exam, rather, you can ask a family member, friend, etc.....
3). Make sure the proctor watches you take the final exam to attest to the fact that you did not share questions or answers with anyone. In short - the proctor is there to make sure you don't offer assistance or get assistance from another person.
4). Log onto D2L and locate the final exam.
5). Take the test - This is an open book/open notes test.
6). Submit the test within the time limit allowed (see D2L for more info.)
7). Submit the SIGNED proctor form to me through email. You can either scan it into the computer and send it to me, or you can take a HIGH QUALITY digital photo and email the picture to me. Be sure to email the proctor form to the class email address.
NOTE: If I do not receive a signed Proctor Form from you with 24 hours of you completing the final exam, you will earn a zero on the final.
Email me with any questions you might have.
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Instructor Note: I am currently working on grading your final papers. Please expect to receive your grading sheet through email early this week.
As you all know, the only thing left to complete for Comm 10 is the final exam, which is open book/open notes. As a reminder the final exam will open up on Dec 13th at 12:01am, and will close on Dec 14th at 11:59pm. Please be sure to take the final exam during the scheduled time.
Please follow these instructions and reminders to take the final exam:
1). Download the Proctor Form from the "Content" tab on D2L. You can locate it under the "Quizzes and Tests" tab.
2). Find someone to proctor your final exam who is a). NOT a part of Comm 10 at SJSU, and b). Over the age of 21. You do not need to go to a testing center for the final exam, rather, you can ask a family member, friend, etc.....
3). Make sure the proctor watches you take the final exam to attest to the fact that you did not share questions or answers with anyone. In short - the proctor is there to make sure you don't offer assistance or get assistance from another person.
4). Log onto D2L and locate the final exam.
5). Take the test - This is an open book/open notes test.
6). Submit the test within the time limit allowed (see D2L for more info.)
7). Submit the SIGNED proctor form to me through email. You can either scan it into the computer and send it to me, or you can take a HIGH QUALITY digital photo and email the picture to me. Be sure to email the proctor form to the class email address.
NOTE: If I do not receive a signed Proctor Form from you with 24 hours of you completing the final exam, you will earn a zero on the final.
Email me with any questions you might have.
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Instructor Note: I am currently working on grading your final papers. Please expect to receive your grading sheet through email early this week.
Monday, December 3, 2012
Week of December 3 - 9
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. This will be our last discussion for the class, however, we have two weeks left of class.
Due this week:
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*STUDY FOR FINAL EXAM - The final exam is scheduled on D2L on Dec 13th - 14th. To take the final exam you will access D2L as you have been all semester, and take the final exam. There is one difference with this test - the final exam must be proctored. This means that you are required to have someone who is over 21, and not a part of Comm 10, watch you take the final exam and attest to the fact that you did not share answers or questions with anyone else in the class. I will post more about this next Monday.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). What have you learned in this class over the course of the semester? Be specific.
2). What was your favorite thing about the class? What was your least favorite thing about the class? How can this class be improved? Again, be specific.
3). Pick one concept from throughout the semester that you feel can use further discussion.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. This will be our last discussion for the class, however, we have two weeks left of class.
Due this week:
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*STUDY FOR FINAL EXAM - The final exam is scheduled on D2L on Dec 13th - 14th. To take the final exam you will access D2L as you have been all semester, and take the final exam. There is one difference with this test - the final exam must be proctored. This means that you are required to have someone who is over 21, and not a part of Comm 10, watch you take the final exam and attest to the fact that you did not share answers or questions with anyone else in the class. I will post more about this next Monday.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). What have you learned in this class over the course of the semester? Be specific.
2). What was your favorite thing about the class? What was your least favorite thing about the class? How can this class be improved? Again, be specific.
3). Pick one concept from throughout the semester that you feel can use further discussion.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Thursday, November 29, 2012
Grades have been updated
Hello Fabulous Students,
I have entered grade into D2L.
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
I have entered grade into D2L.
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Sunday, November 25, 2012
Week of November 26 - December 2
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 3 - Perception and Communication
*No discussion this week
*Finish working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by Dec. 2 @ 11:59pm. Be sure to submit your assignment early. This paper should be your BEST work, as it is the culminating project in the class.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 3 - Perception and Communication
*No discussion this week
*Finish working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by Dec. 2 @ 11:59pm. Be sure to submit your assignment early. This paper should be your BEST work, as it is the culminating project in the class.
Monday, November 19, 2012
Week of November 19 - 25
Hello Folks,
There is nothing else due this week besides your Relationship Development Paper. As a reminder, the final paper is due on Sunday Dec 2nd by 11:59pm.
Have a great week everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
There is nothing else due this week besides your Relationship Development Paper. As a reminder, the final paper is due on Sunday Dec 2nd by 11:59pm.
Have a great week everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Thursday, November 15, 2012
Reminder
Hello Fabulous Students,
As a reminder, you are able to contact me a number of different ways:
1). Email
2). Tues/Thurs - Yahoo Messenger: carolperezcommclass I hold office hours from 9:30am-11:30am.
3). Phone conversation - I'm always available to chat over the phone. Just email me and we can set a time/date to chat. I know it seems strange for students to chat with their instructor over the phone, but I let me assure you that I chat with students over the phone consistently. So while it may seem a little strange to you, it is common practice for me.
In short - I'm available whenever you need to chat.
Have a great day!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
As a reminder, you are able to contact me a number of different ways:
1). Email
2). Tues/Thurs - Yahoo Messenger: carolperezcommclass I hold office hours from 9:30am-11:30am.
3). Phone conversation - I'm always available to chat over the phone. Just email me and we can set a time/date to chat. I know it seems strange for students to chat with their instructor over the phone, but I let me assure you that I chat with students over the phone consistently. So while it may seem a little strange to you, it is common practice for me.
In short - I'm available whenever you need to chat.
Have a great day!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Monday, November 12, 2012
Week of November 12-18
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 12 - Communication in Families
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Quiz - Chapters 10, 11 & 12. Please log onto D2L to take the quiz.
*Continue working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by Dec 2nd @ 11:59pm. The assignment sheet is available for download on D2L.
*Remember to look through the "Helpful Links" page, pertaining to the chapter we are covering this week.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). How do you define family? What do family members do for each other? Which types of relationships discussed in this chapter do and do not fit your definition?
2). In this chapter, you have read about some of the ways in which marriage has changed over time. Based on cultural trends and evolving values of your generation, what changes in marriage would you predict over the next 50 years?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 12 - Communication in Families
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Quiz - Chapters 10, 11 & 12. Please log onto D2L to take the quiz.
*Continue working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by Dec 2nd @ 11:59pm. The assignment sheet is available for download on D2L.
*Remember to look through the "Helpful Links" page, pertaining to the chapter we are covering this week.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). How do you define family? What do family members do for each other? Which types of relationships discussed in this chapter do and do not fit your definition?
2). In this chapter, you have read about some of the ways in which marriage has changed over time. Based on cultural trends and evolving values of your generation, what changes in marriage would you predict over the next 50 years?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Sunday, November 11, 2012
Grades updated in D2L
Hello Fabulous Students,
I have entered grade into D2L for a few items.
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
I have entered grade into D2L for a few items.
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Thursday, November 8, 2012
Study Abroad Summer 2013 - Beijing
The Blogging Prof. is leading a study abroad trip to Beijing during the summer of 2013!!!!!!
Visit Beijing and earn four upper division units in communication studies!
During the summer of 2013 I will be leading an intercultural communication study abroad program to China, with a special emphasis on tourism, modernity, and urban life.
Students will stay at Communication University of China, which provides comfortable dormitory housing, low-cost meals, and easy access to the sights of Beijing. Classes focus on conversation and real-life exploration, and you will have lots of free time. That means opportunities to climb the Great Wall, wander the Forbidden City, experience the Peking Opera, and more.
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| Great Wall |
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| Forbidden City |
Pricing (excluding airfare and visa fees) is about $2,500, which covers housing, course fees, food, and several local tours. Cost for airfare and visa fees is estimated at an additional $1,500. The course meets COMM 161F requirements, but course substitutions can be made if you've already taken that class. If you a communication major, you should apply for this terrific opportunity. However, this opportunity is open to all SJSU students.
Want to learn more:
Please contact me for more information. Students are currently working on getting their passports and deposits, but there is still time to join the trip. I look forward to hearing from you.
Tuesday, November 6, 2012
Instructor Wrap Up - Wood Chapter 11
Committed Romantic Relationships
Key Concepts:
Agape
Commitment
Dyadic breakdown
Dyadic phase
Environmental spoiling
Equity
Eros
Explorational communication
Grave dressing
Intensifying communication
Intimacy
Intrapsychic phase
Invitational communication
Ludus
Mania
Navigating
Passion
Placemaking
Pragma
Psychological responsibililty
Relational culture
Revising communication
Social phase
Social support
Storge
This instructor wrap-up is going to be a bit different this week. In the spirit of self-disclosure, I'm going to give you a little information about my husband and I. I should note here, that I do not generally talk much about my husband in my online classes. However, he does come up quite often in my lectures when I teach face-to-face classes due to the nature of his personality. My husband is an incredibly unique individual with some interesting communication patterns, interests and hobbies. Having said that, here's a brief story about how we met.
Shawn and I have been together for over 10 years, but we've known each other for almost 15 years. It was a Sunday afternoon immediately following a church service one of my best friends and I had attended. We were getting established in a new church in San Jose after having been away at college, and we were getting to know the folks in the college group. The college group, as a whole, were going out to In-N-Out Burger on Blossom Hill and Santa Teresa for lunch, and we were invited to go. As two 21 year old women, we decided it would be great to get to know some people our age, and decided to stop by to say hi. We were a little late showing up because we had some other business to attend to prior to lunch. We walked over from the church to In-N-Out Burger, and while walking up we spotted a few new people we hadn't previously met sitting at the table with some folks from the college group. Everyone introduced themselves, and when Shawn turned around to say hi, my friend Vanessa and I gave each other a look. Nothing notable happened until we were walking away. Being two ladies in our early 20's, of course we sized up everyone we had met that day. Vanessa mentioned that Shawn was cute, and 'just my type'. At that time my response was, "yeah, he's cute but I would never date him because he's too young for me". I was 21 and he was 18 at the time.
Fast forward a week or two later. Shawn was having a college group get-together at his grandparents house complete with a BBQ, pool and hot tub party. To make a long story short, we spent quite a few hours getting to know people at the party, socializing and having a great time. My friend Vanessa and I ended up spending a number of hours getting to know Shawn while he was hanging out in the hot tub (of course we were far too cool to have brought our bathing suits, so we sat at the edge). To this day Shawn will tell you that "we tried to kill him by keeping him in the hot tub for so long". But this was the beginning of a long friendship.
Shawn and I stayed friends for about 3 years before we started dating. In fact, we had absolutely no interest in one another as anything other than friends. Well, that is until one day we started to see each other in a different light. It happened at exactly the same time for both of us, where we were no longer interested in just a friendship, but something more. We officially started dating in early 2002, and have been together ever since. I won't bore you with all of the details about dating, engagement, and our wedding, but I will say that we've had an amazing relationship so far. From the start, our relationship has fit like a glove. I would venture to guess, because we had been friends for so long before we ever started dating, is the reason why our relationship felt so natural. Shawn and I are truly best friends, and can't imagine living our lives apart from one another.
If you want to read about other relationships that exemplify some of the concepts in this chapter, go HERE.
Thanks for letting me do the instructor wrap-up a little differently this week. I figured since you have the ability to read the chapter, this might be more of an interesting way to wrap-up this week's reading.
Monday, November 5, 2012
Week of November 5-11
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 11 - Committed Romantic Relationships
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Continue working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by Dec 2nd @ 11:59pm. The assignment sheet is available for download on D2L.
*Remember to look through the "Helpful Links" page, pertaining to the chapter we are covering this week.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). Some critics (Van Gelder, 1991, Stone, 1996) of online communities believe that there is greater potential for deceit in online relationships than in face-to-face ones. They point out that in online relationships, people may misrepresent their appearance, sex, sexual orientation, and so forth. Do you think it is ethical for people to represent themselves inaccurately? Do you think that deception is more likely in online than in face-to-face interaction, or are different kinds of deception equally likely in the two kinds of interaction?
2). Have you experienced relationships in which love or commitment, but not both, were present? Describe relationships in which there was commitment but not love. What can you conclude about the impact of each?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 11 - Committed Romantic Relationships
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Continue working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by Dec 2nd @ 11:59pm. The assignment sheet is available for download on D2L.
*Remember to look through the "Helpful Links" page, pertaining to the chapter we are covering this week.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). Some critics (Van Gelder, 1991, Stone, 1996) of online communities believe that there is greater potential for deceit in online relationships than in face-to-face ones. They point out that in online relationships, people may misrepresent their appearance, sex, sexual orientation, and so forth. Do you think it is ethical for people to represent themselves inaccurately? Do you think that deception is more likely in online than in face-to-face interaction, or are different kinds of deception equally likely in the two kinds of interaction?
2). Have you experienced relationships in which love or commitment, but not both, were present? Describe relationships in which there was commitment but not love. What can you conclude about the impact of each?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Grades have been updated
Hello Fabulous Students,
I have entered grade into D2L for a few items.
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great evening everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
I have entered grade into D2L for a few items.
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great evening everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Instructor Wrap Up - Wood Chapter 10
Friendships in Our Lives
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive."
Anais Nin
Key Concepts in this Chapter:
Friends of the Heart
Friends of the Road
Internal Tensions
Relationship Rules
For most of us, friends are important. Friends help us pass time, figure out problems, grow personally, celebrate moments of joy, and get through hard times. Across differences in race, gender, class, and sexual orientation, most of us expect to provide intimacy, acceptance, trust, practical assistance, and support. These are common threads in diverse friendships. However, people differ in how they express trust, intimacy, acceptance, and support in friendship.
In this chapter, we explore what friendships are, how they work, and how they differ among people. To launch our discussion, we identify common features of friendship and then point out variations across cultures and social communities. Second, we explore the typical developmental path of friendships and some of the common rules for friendships. Next, we consider pressures on friendships and how we can deal with them. Guidelines for effective communication between friends conclude the chapter.
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Continue down the page a bit where the chapter begins under "The Nature of Friendship". The first couple of lines state:
"Friendship is a unique relationship. Unlike most relationships, friendship is voluntary." (emphasis mine) Some folks feel like they are 'stuck' in friendships, when in reality, friendships are voluntary.
Page 254 explains the idea of emotional closeness. It explains that sex and gender influence HOW we experience closeness. There are a couple of ideas here: 1). Closeness through dialogue, and 2). Closeness through doing.
When the book talks about closeness through dialogue, it refers to communities which emphasize talk as a primary path to intimacy. (Feminine socialization)
The book also covers the idea of closeness through doing. "Closeness through doing often is the primary, but not the only, emphasis in men's friendships." (Masculine socialization)
Personal Note: When my husband and I get together with either his brother and wife, or my sister and husband, guess what we do? My sister (or sister-in-law) sit around and chat, go shopping and chat, grab coffee and chat.......do we see a pattern here? The guys go 'do' something, as they are generally not content to sit around and chat with us.
A little glimpse into my house when we have family/friends over for a BBQ or for dinner will show that everyone arrives around the same time, and congregate in the living room. Most of us take a seat, and chat for a little while over some snacks. Then, most of the time what happens is the guys will gather around the BBQ (doing), while the ladies stay inside and chat and/or prepare food inside the house as we continue to carry on our conversations (dialogue). I tend to call it "worshiping the BBQ", but really, it's male bonding time as they cook. They talk about technique, recall other times we have BBQ'd, and socialize by doing. Whereas the ladies stay inside the house and talk about many other things, rarely talking about food prep. We engage in dialogue.
The Development of Friendship (starts on pg. 260)
The majority of friendships work through a set of stages. These stages are:
1). Role-Limited Interaction. Friendships begin with an initial encounter, either planned or accidental.
2). Friendly Relations occur when we spend time checking out whether we could develop a more lasting relationship with this person.
3). In the third stage, we work toward creating a longer-term friendship by starting to disclose our feelings, attitudes, values, thoughts, and interests. Moving toward friendship.
4). Nascent friendship is when we being to think of ourselves as friends and to work out our own rules for the relationship.
5). When we are in the stabilized friendship stage, we have determined that this relationship will continue, take future encounters for granted, and work at creating a high level of trust. Relationship rules are unspoken understandings that regulate how people interact.
6). When one or both people stop investing in the relationship, get pulled in different directions by family or career demands, or violate trust or a rule, the friendship can begin to wane; communication can become defensive if it exists at all. Waning Friendship.
The chapter also covers the idea of "Pressures on Friendships" which is quite interesting. I won't discuss these ideas in this post, but I'm convinced that you'll find this section very interesting. Don't skip reading it. You'll probably find yourself nodding your head in agreement quite a bit through this section.
I DO want to focus on a short section at the end of the chapter titled "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" (pg. 270-271). Starting on page 268 is a section called "Guidelines for Communication between Friends", and is incredibly useful! There are four specific guidelines for enhancing communication in friendships, one of them being the idea of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff".
Pg. 270 - "The 18th century writer Samuel Johnson once remarked that most friendships die not because of major violations and problems but because of small slights and irritations that slowly destroy closeness."
This statement is so, so true! Is it not? It's not the big things that take down a friendship, rather it's the small things. The same can be said for relationships other than friendships. What about marriages, sibling relationships, professional relationships, etc....?
What a fabulous chapter!!! I hope you have enjoyed it as much as I have.
Reminder: Check out the links I posted to the "Useful Links" page at the top of my blog. I just finished updating links for chapter 10.
The Blogging Prof.
Monday, October 29, 2012
Week of October 29 - November 4
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 10 - Friendships in Our Lives
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Continue working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by May 6th @ 11:59pm. The assignment sheet is available for download on D2L.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). To learn how others view friendships and what issues arise in their friendships, visit the Friendship Page. This site offers songs, poetry, and quotes about Friendship, as well as chat rooms and an advice forum. To what extent do the issues raised in the advice forum reflect challenges to friendship discussed in this chapter? http://www.friendship.com.au/
2). Think about someone who is a very close or best friend. Describe the investments you and your friend have made in the relationship. Describe how you build and communicate trust, acceptance, and closeness. Are the dynamics of your friendship consistent with those identified by researchers as discussed in this chapter?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 10 - Friendships in Our Lives
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Continue working on the final project: Relationship Development Paper. This paper will be due by May 6th @ 11:59pm. The assignment sheet is available for download on D2L.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). To learn how others view friendships and what issues arise in their friendships, visit the Friendship Page. This site offers songs, poetry, and quotes about Friendship, as well as chat rooms and an advice forum. To what extent do the issues raised in the advice forum reflect challenges to friendship discussed in this chapter? http://www.friendship.com.au/
2). Think about someone who is a very close or best friend. Describe the investments you and your friend have made in the relationship. Describe how you build and communicate trust, acceptance, and closeness. Are the dynamics of your friendship consistent with those identified by researchers as discussed in this chapter?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Monday, October 22, 2012
Week of October 22 - 28
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week.
NOTE: The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 9 - Managing Conflict in Relationships
*There is no discussion this week
*Start working on Relationship Development Paper. This paper is due by Dec 2nd @ 11:59pm.
*Test on Chapters 8 & 9. Please log into D2L to take the test.
Reminder: I hold office hours of Tuesday's and Thursday's from 9:30am to 11:30am on Yahoo Messenger. I can also chat with students over the phone during that time, or at your convenience. We can always make an appointment to chat over the phone in case you need clarification about something in the class. And of course, I'm always available through email.
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week.
NOTE: The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 9 - Managing Conflict in Relationships
*There is no discussion this week
*Start working on Relationship Development Paper. This paper is due by Dec 2nd @ 11:59pm.
*Test on Chapters 8 & 9. Please log into D2L to take the test.
Reminder: I hold office hours of Tuesday's and Thursday's from 9:30am to 11:30am on Yahoo Messenger. I can also chat with students over the phone during that time, or at your convenience. We can always make an appointment to chat over the phone in case you need clarification about something in the class. And of course, I'm always available through email.
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Instructor Wrap Up - Wood Chapter 8
Communication Climate: The Foundation of Personal Relationships
"In a full heart there is no room for everything, and in an empty heart there is room for nothing."
Antonio Porchia
Key Concepts in this Chapter:
Assertion
Commitment
Ethnocentrism
Interpersonal Climate
Investment
Relational Dialectics
Self-Disclosure
Trust
What a great chapter, wouldn't you agree? I'm sure you have learned some of these principles in other classes, however, evaluating your own interactions with other people can really solidify these concepts. In the second discussion question this week, I've asked you the following question:
"Think of an interaction in which you felt disconfirmed or defensive. Describe how others in the situation communicated toward you. How many of Gibb's defensiveness-producing communication behaviors can you identify as present in the situation?"
"Communication researcher Jack Gibb studied the relationship between communication and communication climates. He began by noting that with some people we feel disconfirmed and on guard, so we are unlikely to communication openly with them. Gibb called these defensive climates. Gibb also noted that with other people we feel supported and confirmed, so we are likely to communicate freely with them. Gibb called these supportive climates. Even in the healthiest and most supportive relationships, there are usually some defensive moments and some situations in which we don't feel comfortable. Yet, in most satisfying relationships, the overall climate is generally supportive and confirming.
Gibb believed that the different communication climates result largely from communication that promotes feeling defensive for feeling supportive. Gibb identified six types of communication that promote defensive climates and six opposite types of communication that foster supportive climates, as show in Table 8.3." (Wood, 2010, p. 207).
Table 8.3 shows Communication and Climate
Defensive Communication / Supportive Communication
Evaluation / Description
Certainty / Provisionalism
Strategy / Spontaneity
Control / Problem orientation
Neutrality / Empathy
Superiority / Equality
You can read more about the different types of Defensive and Supportive Communication beginning on page 207, and ending on page 210.
There are many other aspects of this chapter which are useful to you in your personal relationships. When you read through the chapter (not just this chapter, but all chapters in this book), try to think of situations where you have encountered some of these ideas. Bringing theory and practice together will really help you to understand concepts, and ultimately retain the ideas we cover in this class.
You can read more about the different types of Defensive and Supportive Communication beginning on page 207, and ending on page 210.
There are many other aspects of this chapter which are useful to you in your personal relationships. When you read through the chapter (not just this chapter, but all chapters in this book), try to think of situations where you have encountered some of these ideas. Bringing theory and practice together will really help you to understand concepts, and ultimately retain the ideas we cover in this class.
Monday, October 15, 2012
Week of October 15 - 21
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 8 - Communication Climate: The Foundation of Personal Relationships
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*ESSAY DUE: Intercultural Interviews is due by October 21st @ 11:59pm.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). Have you found it difficult to confirm others when you disagree with them? If so, does reading this chapter help you distinguish between recognition, acknowledgement, and endorsement? Can you distinguish between confirming others as people and endorsing particular ideas?
2). Think of an interaction in which you felt disconfirmed or defensive. Describe how others in the situation communicated toward you. How many of Gibb's defensiveness-producing communication behaviors can you identify as present in the situation?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 8 - Communication Climate: The Foundation of Personal Relationships
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*ESSAY DUE: Intercultural Interviews is due by October 21st @ 11:59pm.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). Have you found it difficult to confirm others when you disagree with them? If so, does reading this chapter help you distinguish between recognition, acknowledgement, and endorsement? Can you distinguish between confirming others as people and endorsing particular ideas?
2). Think of an interaction in which you felt disconfirmed or defensive. Describe how others in the situation communicated toward you. How many of Gibb's defensiveness-producing communication behaviors can you identify as present in the situation?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Monday, October 8, 2012
Week of October 8-14
Hello Folks!
The only thing due this week is the Midterm Exam on D2L. Please log onto D2L to take the exam. It is open book, open notes and it covers Chapters 1, 2, 4, 5, 6 & 7. Remember that the midterm is timed, and it needs to be submitted by 11:59pm on Sunday night. Please do not share answers or test questions with fellow classmates.
As a reminder, the second paper: Intercultural Interviews will be due by next Sunday, October 21st @ 11:59pm. This is a great week to work on that assignment!!!!
Have a good week everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
The only thing due this week is the Midterm Exam on D2L. Please log onto D2L to take the exam. It is open book, open notes and it covers Chapters 1, 2, 4, 5, 6 & 7. Remember that the midterm is timed, and it needs to be submitted by 11:59pm on Sunday night. Please do not share answers or test questions with fellow classmates.
As a reminder, the second paper: Intercultural Interviews will be due by next Sunday, October 21st @ 11:59pm. This is a great week to work on that assignment!!!!
Have a good week everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Saturday, October 6, 2012
Grades Updated in D2L
Hello Fabulous Students,
I have entered grade into D2L for the following items:
Discussion Week of Sept. 24-30
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
I have entered grade into D2L for the following items:
Discussion Week of Sept. 24-30
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
Prof. on Campus
Hello Fabulous Students,
I will be on campus Wednesday and Thursday of this week if you would like to meet with me f2f. That means that my online office hours on Thursday will be canceled because I will hold office hours in person.
I should be in my office from about 11:00am to 12:00pm if you would like to stop by. However, please let me know if you will be stopping by so that I can make sure I will be in my office when you get there. I have a number of meetings to go to, and will likely be running around the department during that time, so please contact me to let me know you'll be stopping by.
My office location is HGH 216
See y'all soon!
TBP
I will be on campus Wednesday and Thursday of this week if you would like to meet with me f2f. That means that my online office hours on Thursday will be canceled because I will hold office hours in person.
I should be in my office from about 11:00am to 12:00pm if you would like to stop by. However, please let me know if you will be stopping by so that I can make sure I will be in my office when you get there. I have a number of meetings to go to, and will likely be running around the department during that time, so please contact me to let me know you'll be stopping by.
My office location is HGH 216
See y'all soon!
TBP
Monday, October 1, 2012
Week of October 1 - 7
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 7 - Emotions and Communication
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Study for midterm (the midterm will be next week)
*Continue working on the second course assignment: Intercultural Interviews. The assignment sheet is available on D2L.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). The book discusses different perspective on emotions. Which perspective - of what combination of several - makes the most sense to you? Why? Explain how the perspective you favor gives you insight into emotions that you don't get from other perspectives.
2). Review the fallacies discussed in the last section of this chapter. Do any of these fallacies show up in your intrapersonal communication? After reading about the fallacies and ways to challenge them, can you monitor and revise your intrapersonal communication?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 7 - Emotions and Communication
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Study for midterm (the midterm will be next week)
*Continue working on the second course assignment: Intercultural Interviews. The assignment sheet is available on D2L.
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). The book discusses different perspective on emotions. Which perspective - of what combination of several - makes the most sense to you? Why? Explain how the perspective you favor gives you insight into emotions that you don't get from other perspectives.
2). Review the fallacies discussed in the last section of this chapter. Do any of these fallacies show up in your intrapersonal communication? After reading about the fallacies and ways to challenge them, can you monitor and revise your intrapersonal communication?
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Friday, September 28, 2012
Instructor Wrap Up - Wood Chapter 6
Mindful Listening
"One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears - by listening to them."
Dean Rusk
Key Concepts in this chapter:
ambushing
defensive listening
hearing
listening
listening for information
listening for pleasure
listening to support others
literal listening
mindfulness
minimal encouragers
monopolizing
paraphrasing
prejudgement
preoccupation
pseudolistening
remembering
responding
selective listening
Pg. 147 starts out by explaining The Listening Process. The process of listening is a mult-sitep process:
Being Mindful
Physically Receiving Messages
Selecting and Organizing Information
Interpreting Communication
Responding
Remembering
There is quite a bit more to listening than simply 'hearing' something, as the text mentions. 'Hearing' is a physiological process, while 'listening' is an active and complex process that involves our ears, minds, and hearts.
Also on this page the author mentions the idea of mindfulness. "Mindfulness is being fully present in the moment", or what is called 'wide awakeness'. Engaging in mindfulness is a choice, plain and simple. When someone senses that they are being listened to in a mindful way, they tend to elaborate on their ideas and express themselves in more depth. And isn't that what we want for the folks who we 'listen' to?
Pg. 148 covers the second step in the process: Physically Receiving Messages. This section covers ideas of the physiological reaction when receiving a message, listening impairments, and gender and listening. We will camp in the gender section for a minute or two: Isn't interesting that women and men tend to differ in their listening habits? "Men tend to focus their hearing on specific content aspects of communication, whereas women generally are more likely to attend to the whole of communication, noticing details, tangents, and relationship-level meanings".
The third step as outlined by your text is Selecting and Organizing Material. This discussion starts on page 148 and continues to pg. 149. Folks have a tendency to selectively attend to some messages and elements in their environment. This means that there are many factors that go into selective attention: interests, cognitive structures, expectations and culture. Once we select what we are going to focus on, we then organize the stimuli.
The fourth step is Interpreting Communication. Your book says it best on pg. 149: "The most important principle for effective interpretation is to be person-centered. To be centered on the particular individual to whom you are listening, you engage in dual perspective so that you interpret others on their terms."
Responding is the next step. This simply means communicating your attention and interest in what the other person is saying. Signs of responsiveness are: eye contact, nodding, attentive posture, and questions/comments.
The final aspect of the listening process is Remembering. Remembering is the act of retaining what you have heard. An interesting statistic on pg. 150: "...we remember less than half of a message immediately after we hear it. As time goes by, retention decreases further; we recall only about 35% of a message 8 hours after hearing it."
External and Internal Obstacles to Mindful Listening pg. 151-155
There are a number of both external and internal barriers to mindful listening. External obstacles are:
Message Overload
Message Complexity
Noise
Internal Obstacles are:
Preoccupation
Prejudgment
Reacting to Emotionally Loaded Language
Lack of Effort
Failure to Adapt Listening Styles
Forms of Nonlistening are covered next starting on pg. 156. In the previous section we discussed obstacles to mindful listening. This is vastly different than nonlistening. Nonlistening means that a person is simply not engaging in real listening. There are six types:
Pseudolistening
Monopolizing
Selective Listening
Defensive Listening
Ambushing
Literal Listening
How many of these do you engage in? This section directly relates to one of our discussion questions this week, so I will leave it up to you to discuss.
Adapting Listening to Communication Goals
This section is quite important. Can you guess why?
There are a number of Communication Goals listed in your book starting on pg. 160:
Listening for Pleasure - Be mindful, control distractions and intereferences
Listening for Information - Be Mindful, Ask Questions, Control Obstacles, Use Aids to Recall, Organize Information
Listening to Support Others - Be Mindful, Be Careful of Expressing Judgments, Understand the Other Person's Perspective, Paraphrasing, Express Support
Do you notice a pattern here? That's right - Mindful Listening. Mindful listening is i.n.c.r.e.d.i.b.l.y. important, and is something we should practice quite a bit. If you did not absorb all of the information in that section, you might want to go back and review it.
Have you ever wondered why in a lot of your communication classes the instructor covers the idea of listening in some respect? It is because listening is 'the other half of communication'. It is imperative that we mindfully listen when someone else speaks. Whether it is a friend, family member, acquaintance, professor, etc... they are communicating something. Wouldn't it be great if we all tried active listening a bit more with the folks we come in contact with in our lives?
Thanks folks!
The Blogging Prof.
The fourth step is Interpreting Communication. Your book says it best on pg. 149: "The most important principle for effective interpretation is to be person-centered. To be centered on the particular individual to whom you are listening, you engage in dual perspective so that you interpret others on their terms."
Responding is the next step. This simply means communicating your attention and interest in what the other person is saying. Signs of responsiveness are: eye contact, nodding, attentive posture, and questions/comments.
The final aspect of the listening process is Remembering. Remembering is the act of retaining what you have heard. An interesting statistic on pg. 150: "...we remember less than half of a message immediately after we hear it. As time goes by, retention decreases further; we recall only about 35% of a message 8 hours after hearing it."
External and Internal Obstacles to Mindful Listening pg. 151-155
There are a number of both external and internal barriers to mindful listening. External obstacles are:
Message Overload
Message Complexity
Noise
Internal Obstacles are:
Preoccupation
Prejudgment
Reacting to Emotionally Loaded Language
Lack of Effort
Failure to Adapt Listening Styles
Forms of Nonlistening are covered next starting on pg. 156. In the previous section we discussed obstacles to mindful listening. This is vastly different than nonlistening. Nonlistening means that a person is simply not engaging in real listening. There are six types:
Pseudolistening
Monopolizing
Selective Listening
Defensive Listening
Ambushing
Literal Listening
How many of these do you engage in? This section directly relates to one of our discussion questions this week, so I will leave it up to you to discuss.
Adapting Listening to Communication Goals
This section is quite important. Can you guess why?
There are a number of Communication Goals listed in your book starting on pg. 160:
Listening for Pleasure - Be mindful, control distractions and intereferences
Listening for Information - Be Mindful, Ask Questions, Control Obstacles, Use Aids to Recall, Organize Information
Listening to Support Others - Be Mindful, Be Careful of Expressing Judgments, Understand the Other Person's Perspective, Paraphrasing, Express Support
Do you notice a pattern here? That's right - Mindful Listening. Mindful listening is i.n.c.r.e.d.i.b.l.y. important, and is something we should practice quite a bit. If you did not absorb all of the information in that section, you might want to go back and review it.
Have you ever wondered why in a lot of your communication classes the instructor covers the idea of listening in some respect? It is because listening is 'the other half of communication'. It is imperative that we mindfully listen when someone else speaks. Whether it is a friend, family member, acquaintance, professor, etc... they are communicating something. Wouldn't it be great if we all tried active listening a bit more with the folks we come in contact with in our lives?
Thanks folks!
The Blogging Prof.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Grades have been updated in D2L
Hello Fabulous Students,
I have entered grade into D2L for the following items:
Discussion Week of Sept. 10-16
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
I have entered grade into D2L for the following items:
Discussion Week of Sept. 10-16
As a reminder, it is your responsibility to check your grades often (at least once a week), and email me if you have any questions.
Have a great day everyone!
:)
The Blogging Prof.
Monday, September 24, 2012
Week of September 24-30
Hello Folks!
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 6 - Mindful Listening
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Quiz on Chapters 4, 5 & 6.
*Start working on the second course assignment: Intercultural Interviews (Available for dowbload on D2L)
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). Review the six types of nonlistening discussed in this chapter. Are any of them common in your communication? Make a plan to overcome this type of nonlistening you have engaged in. Describe the type of nonlistenging you engage in, and discuss how you plan to fix is.
2). The International Listening Association (ILA) http://listen.org is a rich resource for learning more about listening and networking with others who recognize its importance in everyday life. Its website features exercises to test and improve listening, factoids about listening, Internet discussion groups, quotes about the nature and value of listening, and a bibliography for those who want to read more. Review "Listening is a 10 part skill", and report on what you learned: http://d1025403.site.myhosting.com/files.listen.org/NicholsTenPartSkill/Mr39Enf4.html
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
Here is what is listed on the Participation Page from D2L for this week. The schedule for the entire semester, and the discussion questions for the entire semester are listed on the Schedule and Participation Pages, respectively. In case you do not want to wait for the "Monday Post", you are more than welcome to get started by looking at those two pages on D2L.
Due this week:
*Read Chapter 6 - Mindful Listening
*Participate in the discussion (see questions below)
*Quiz on Chapters 4, 5 & 6.
*Start working on the second course assignment: Intercultural Interviews (Available for dowbload on D2L)
Discussion Questions:
Answer one question in its entirety in each of your three separate posts, at least 12 hours apart. Please make sure you are creating a NEW POST for each question on your blog. You MUST WAIT at least 12 hours from the first post in order to create a second post. The same is true for the second and third post. I will record dates and time of your posts, so make sure they are at least 12 hours apart. EACH POST MUST BE 150 WORDS OR MORE. Each post is worth a maximum of 5 points.
1). Review the six types of nonlistening discussed in this chapter. Are any of them common in your communication? Make a plan to overcome this type of nonlistening you have engaged in. Describe the type of nonlistenging you engage in, and discuss how you plan to fix is.
2). The International Listening Association (ILA) http://listen.org is a rich resource for learning more about listening and networking with others who recognize its importance in everyday life. Its website features exercises to test and improve listening, factoids about listening, Internet discussion groups, quotes about the nature and value of listening, and a bibliography for those who want to read more. Review "Listening is a 10 part skill", and report on what you learned: http://d1025403.site.myhosting.com/files.listen.org/NicholsTenPartSkill/Mr39Enf4.html
3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
Comments - Remember to post ONE comment ON THREE DIFFERENT BLOGS between 12:01am on Monday and 11:59pm on Sunday. This means that you will log onto MY BLOG at: http://comm10perez.blogspot.com/ to see a list of your colleagues blogs. Click on those blogs, read what was posted for this week and respond. You need to make sure you are responding to only what was discussed THIS WEEK (starting Monday and ending Sunday of the current week). Comments posted to blogs that were NOT within this week will not be counted for points. Each comment must be a minimum of 100 words and is worth a maximum of 3 points.
Note about comments: When you leave a comment on another blog, make sure you are logged into your blogspot account. In other words, you will need to make sure your "Display Name/Alias Name" shows up on the blog you are commenting on. I record the locations, dates and times of your comments. Please keep record of your posts and comments in case questions arise about where comments are located.
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